Please welcome Angie Cothran!
First off, thanks Livia for letting me guest post today. It’s so fun visiting.
I wanted to post about something that we can all identify with—connection.
In this virtual world it’s easy to hide behind a computer or phone screen and still be connected. I’m firmly of the opinion that connecting in person is always better, but sometimes that isn’t possible. So how do we make these virtual connections true connections to others? I have a few ideas.
Be Yourself—It’s easy to try and be someone else online, but don’t do it. It will never last for long anyway. Who we really are will always leak out. The best compliment I ever received was from a friend I met on my blog and then met in person months later. She said, “You are exactly the same as you are online.”
Be Vulnerable—We all have struggles and weaknesses. When we open up about what is hard for us it makes us more approachable—more human. No one is going to believe you are perfect and people will love you all the more in your imperfections.
Be Kind—I’m not saying you have to be fake or never negative, but kindness goes a long way in a world that judges everyone so harshly. A few months ago during a blog hop I came across a blog that was all about being grumpy. The author was negative and mean in their comments. I’m not sure if this is really who they are in real life, but I couldn’t help feeling this was a gimmick. I wanted nothing to do it. There’s enough negativity in the world, we don’t need more.
Reciprocate—If others leave comments on your blog, reciprocate. Set up your comments so that you can respond to their comments by email. I’ve gotten to know other bloggers better just with the back and forth of email. And when they come to your blog—go to theirs. This can take time, but it’s worth it.
Time—It takes months to developed real relationships. Visiting someone’s blog everyday will help you know who they are. And as you leave them messages they will know who you are. It is a slow build up but soon you will find that you have a history together they you can both draw from.
True connections come from truly being yourself and truly caring about others—there is no other way. I look at bloggers who aren’t published or famous, but still have a lot of followers and they are all good at these things.
So go out and connect! You’ll make all kinds of friends who will help you in your writing journey.
Thank you Angie!