Wednesday, October 3, 2012

IWSG: Alienation

 
I’m a new member of Insecure Writer's Support Group hosted by the Ninja Captain Alex J. Cavanaugh! This group “meets” the first Wednesday of every month and discusses their writing insecurities.
 
I’ve been blogging for six months now. It took me awhile to find a community that I can hang out with in the blogosphere. The writing community welcomed me in after I commented on several blogs. Yes, some doors were open to me but I didn’t want to jump on it too quickly. I didn’t want to feel alienated from the rest of the group.
 
It took me two months to join this group because of alienation. I had pondered about joining IWSG for a month. I analyzed the benefits and positivity of IWSG. After I hung out with a few IWSG members, I felt this group is very beneficial and positive. It’s hard not to pass up this opportunity. I had to sign up however I needed the courage to do so.
 
I wanted to make sure my blog was stable enough for IWSG. Fortunately, it is. Check. I wanted to make sure I feel welcome to other writer’ blogs. I am. Check. I wanted to make sure I followed Alex’s blog. Yes, I follow Alex’s blog. Check. I felt confident enough to sign up on the Linky list but not quite yet.
 
I commented on Alex’s blog and said, “I've been debating over the past month or so - should I join IWSG group? I'm not really a book writer but rather an aspiring film critic. I don't know if I could fit in to your group. And the responsibility of posting on the first Wednesday kinda throws me off - I'm sorta busy with my life. I really would like to join the group of all these AWESOME writers and if I join IWSG, it could be the best thing I did!”
 
Alex graciously replied, “If you have a blog, it means you write, so please join us! And only one day out of the month. It is worth it.”
 
Right then and there, I made up my mind. I signed up on the IWSG Linky list and it’s the best thing I did.
 
Thank you Alex for hosting this group.
 
Have you ever felt alienated online before?

31 comments:

  1. Hey,

    Welcome y'all :)

    I couldn't even spell "IWSG" the first month or two... I think I *may* have changed it, but I did refer to it as the "ISWG" at least once, and probably alienated a few folk.

    'Sall good.

    Livia, you are doing great. I know you've reached out to a ton of folks to help out with your guest post request and if you keep this up, your name will get out there and folks will stop on by to say hi :)

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  2. What an emotional post! I am touched by your words and certainly agree that this group of people are priceless. They are so welcoming and supportive. I am also very happy and humbled to be a part of their community and I welcome you as well.

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  3. *hugs* IWSG is the best group EVER! Nobody ever gets left out, and you meet a bunch of new friends! :D

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  4. I think we all have felt alienated in life and on the internet at some point. More often then not our insecurities are the cause of our separation, not the actions of others, though there are rude people out there. It took me 9 months of lurking before I had the courage to comment on my writer's website. Of course when I did I was welcomed warmly. Just think of how much longer I could have been learning if I had stepped out.

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  5. And so glad you did sign up! It's when we stand on the outside looking in that we are the most vulnerable. Now you have an IWSG army at your side.

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  6. I love that IWSG is open to a variety of blogs and styles. Writing is writing in all its glorious and insecure forms! I'm so grateful to be able to share this journey with writers from all walks via the internet.

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  7. Welcome to the group! I have felt alienated before - not with writers, but a whole other group - so I was really nervous when I first started commenting on other blogs, I though people would just ignore me. But they didn't - they commented on mine. Writers are one of the most friendliest bunch of people you can meet, because we all know how lonely it can be.

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  8. I'm so glad you're here, Livia!

    It's funny... there can totally be clicks online... which is unfortunate, but really, this group of writers here are amazing. Such support! I know being friends with all of you guys has been so helpful for me. :)

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  9. I find the writing community to be very supportive and understanding of each other. Welcome.

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  10. We're glad to have you! And Alex completely rocks! And you're more of a writer than you know. Even film critics write, and we all have different paths and unfortunately insecurities to share. :)

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  11. Welcome board, we are happy to have you!

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  12. I agree with Alex! So glad you could join us! :)

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  13. Just stopping by to say hi from the IWSG :)

    I feel alienated ALL the time...but normally in my real life lol. I feel so at home here in Blog land with fellow writers, theyre lovely arent they :)

    xx

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  14. Greetings from IWSG! I did feel that way online before, but I gradually began to make connections with people and now I don't feel so odd about jumping into discussions. Now blogging feels totally normal to me (it didn't at first!)

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  15. This is my first month, too. Welcome and thanks for your comments today. It took me over a year to join the group, but I'm glad I did, cause now we've met. :)

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  16. Welcome to IWSG! Glad you joined. The writing community is really great, full of talented, generous, kind and simply amazing people from all over the world. You're going to fit in just fine. (:

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  17. Of course you're welcome! :)

    As far as keeping up with the posts...
    I did a bad thing, but Alex welcomed me back. (He's so awesome.) I signed up for IWSG once with good intentions, then forgot about it. Ooops. Then I got my act together and signed up again.

    Now I keep a notebook with a calendar and keep track of all my posts that way. Another thing I do is pre-schedule a post with the title IWSG for the first Wed of the next 2-3 months--even if the post itself is empty. That reminds me that I have one coming up. Then, whenever I get inspired, I just open it up and write.

    Hope that helps. :)

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  18. You write. Maybe in a different capacity than many in IWSG, but you write. Writers of any sort get the insecurities that writing of any sort can bring. That makes sense. It does. :-)

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  19. I'm glad you found the courage to sign up, Livia! Good for you. :)

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  20. welcome to the group!! I'm glad you did join :)

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  21. Alex is wonderful, isn't he? I worried about committing to once a month too at first. No I really look forward to writing and reading these posts!

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  22. I know exactly what you mean, Livia. I'm not an outgoing person in real-life and that transmits into my online presence. But you're very very welcome and I've joined your blog to read your updates. I love meeting you.

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  23. when i started my blog i was talking to no one. i felt like an ignored, possibly ridiculed mime!
    but reaching out reaped benefits untold! my fear is sticking my foot in my mouth and alienating others unintentionally. i could probably use sensitivity training...ah well

    so glad you joined!

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  24. I remember making my first comments on people's blogs. SCARY! But really, as you've said, everyone is so welcoming. And I agree with Alex, you have a blog so you most certainly write :)

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  25. Yay for joining!!

    As for writing, you write this blog. That makes you a writer. :)

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  26. You did the right thing by joining IWSG. We all need to stick together. Otherwise it's simply too lonely out there. Happy IWSG, Livia. I'm #192

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  27. Hello!Welcome to the blog world. Not everyone who visits my blog is a writer but Alex is right,you write a blog,you are a writer:))

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  28. Blogging is a form of writing, so...WELCOME to IWSG. :)) It's an awesome community, and I'm sure you'll be glad you've joined.

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  29. Thanks for joining this group. I've met so many new people this month, I'm very excited to learn more about you all.

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  30. Welcome to IWSG! I've been blogging for less than a year, and I hesitated to sign up at first too. Still, I find that it's definitely worth the commitment. I look forward to reading more from you!

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  31. You inspired me to join next month. For me, alienation comes when I doubt my dreams... Thank you for visiting my blog, I am having fun reading yours :)

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